Afrighartz Chronicle

The idea for this piece came to me after watching a short quote on TikTok. The creator listed five things about women and standards and how unwise it is for a woman of standard to chase after a man. And while I liked what she said, something in me disagreed. So I shared my thoughts in a comment, and this is what you are reading. What is Standard Sometimes, when you think about it, standards aren’t about pride or ego; they’re about knowing oneself. S o, h aving standards doesn’t mean refusing to seek a man’s attention . And knowing what you want doesn ’ t mean letting go blindly — we let go what's not worthy of our time, effort, and energy . Does a woman with standards chase? Sometimes, a woman with standards may choose to pursue a man she believes holds greater values than herself because only a truly self-aware woman knows when to humble herself to meet someone on her level. For that matter, we shouldn’t assume that chasing a man means a woman lacks standards or wisdom, nor that ...

 On June 15, 2025, something happened in class that stirred thoughts too important to ignore. Our class representative, after being wished a Happy Father’s Day, casually remarked that “ladies should be advised because when men talk, they also talk back.” That was his version of humor or perhaps a quiet echo of a deeper, troubling belief. Thankfully, our instructor addressed it calmly and wisely: “That’s what we call communication. Otherwise, the man will feel bored.” And she was right, deeply right. The Quiet Harm Behind the Joke What’s concerning is not just the comment itself, but the mindset it reveals: a belief that when men speak, women should stay silent, suggesting that communication in a relationship should be one-sided and that a woman speaking up is somehow inappropriate. But all these ideas are not just outdated but harmful to the health of families and societies at large. Marriage Is Like Busine...