Afrighartz Chronicle

When it comes to relationships, the heart often sees what the mind tries to ignore. But emotional intelligence demands that we slow down, pay attention, and protect our peace. True love does not come wrapped in pain, confusion, or control. It feels safe, empowering, and clear. Below are some of the signs every woman should take note of, backed by psychology and written with the intention to inform, not to frighten. 1. Beware of a Man Who Thrives on Your Past Pain A man who truly loves you won’t interrogate you about your past relationships just to feed his curiosity or trigger emotional reactions. If he seems entertained by your wounds, take a step back and reflect. This is not love. It’s emotional sadism. Psychological Insight: Studies have linked such behavior to narcissistic and sociopathic tendencies, where emotional manipulation becomes a tool for control (Paulhus & Williams, 2002). 2. Lack of Genuine Attraction If a man needs external stimulation, like erotic content, to b...

The idea for this piece came to me after watching a short quote on TikTok. The creator listed five things about women and standards and how unwise it is for a woman of standard to chase after a man. And while I liked what she said, something in me disagreed. So I shared my thoughts in a comment, and this is what you are reading. What is Standard Sometimes, when you think about it, standards aren’t about pride or ego; they’re about knowing oneself. S o, h aving standards doesn’t mean refusing to seek a man’s attention . And knowing what you want doesn ’ t mean letting go blindly — we let go what's not worthy of our time, effort, and energy . Does a woman with standards chase? Sometimes, a woman with standards may choose to pursue a man she believes holds greater values than herself because only a truly self-aware woman knows when to humble herself to meet someone on her level. For that matter, we shouldn’t assume that chasing a man means a woman lacks standards or wisdom, nor that ...